What is really good for me? What is really good for you? Is it what makes us happy or does most of our contentment come from within if we work hard at it and all the other good stuff is just extra?
Go into your heart, pull out the weeds, clear the brush, break down the walls and look at what’s in there what is it?
Is it love? Is it fear? Is it shame or maybe there a gaping hole that’s always being filled by things that we think gratify us. Maybe those things we put in the hole, if we have one, are the things that keep us apart from at least some of the joy and happiness we desire for ourselves.
What is it that makes us feel fulfilled?
Is our work? Does it come from being a good parent or spouse? Is it having a sense of mastery over something important and gives us feelings that just maybe we are making a dent in some small or significant way in our world?
Go into your head clear the chatter,
Stop the thinking, don’t try to hear, just wait and listen.
Listen to you. Your talking by the way, your dreams your aspirations, the flashes of happiness or even sadness we might see before we fall asleep at night. Our thoughts when we hear a song that swells our heart, or when the sun warms our face.
Just listen you will know.
Listen to your feelings, your images,
your dreams, the things you doodle when your not thinking, heed to your senses, does something move you inside,?
What exactly is the expression of our own authenticity?
That is our power source. Not money or position, or status. It is you.
It is me.
What is really good for us? What makes us truly happy?
There is little perfection in love
For as much joy and happiness that fills us there is as much equal despair and disappointment. The magnetic pull that keeps us safe and warm equally drags us into a grief of cold loneliness.
The perfection of love is only marked by moments we have to cherish that infuse our hearts with memories and feelings that keep us moving forward with our hearts bursting. It is what drives us to keep going day after day.
Our education, our children and families, our cultures, our hard work in our jobs, all the sacrifices we make, the letting go of things we wanted, the compromises we make, the changes we want to make in ourselves.
And all the things we tell ourselves that keep us in a state of bliss or denial.
Nothing is anything without love.
Happiness is ephemeral.
Success is gratifying.
Wealth brings safety and freedom.
Without having love our existence is only grazing the surface of life.
It is the only thing there is that can fill the holes in our soul left by things we never had or never knew we missed.
It is the only thing that arrives and departs on its own accord.
Hard work doesn’t bring it to us
Money does not summon it’s call
Nothing is anything without it.
Love is fragile. Treat it and others you love as your best art. Put it in its best light, and hold it close.
A Decade of Darkness
So named, a recent book written by Michelle Knight. She is one of the three girls who were kidnapped and held hostage in Ohio for a decade by a maniacal and evil man. All three girls, now women, were rescued last year. Castro, the kidnapper, hung himself in his cell before his trial. He was psychiatrically evaluated prior to his suicide and was found to be fully competent to stand trial and not mentally ill. No surprise.
Michelle Knight narrated the book. It is an intensely detailed and horrifying story of her kidnapping and subsequent hostage experience. After reading her story, I felt compelled to write something in her honor. This disturbing narrative has taught me the true meaning of the phrase “triumph of the human spirit”.
No matter how damaged we may feel inside, or when we are victimized and seemingly put through unbearable pain, we all have an immense capacity to live through seemingly impossible things, when love is a motivating factor.
Reading this book, was difficult, and as someone who has vast experience with a range of clients and work environments, I don’t say that often. It puts life in perspective. It pushes one to examine the notion “why are we here” and moves our emotions way beyond our comfort zone. At the end it’s all about Love. Which is the core of everything that truly matters.
I offer my utmost respect and affection for Michelle Knight. She is a true survivor, not a victim, and for me, a teacher.